Insight Divorce First Aid Toolkit Online Course
The Step-by-Step Online Course For Anyone Navigating Divorce
Learn how to survive the divorce process with confidence, clarity, and dignity from a Board Certified Family Law Specialist with over 30 years of experience.
Divorce comes with a lot of questions…
How should I break the news to my partner?
Where do I go for support, legally and personally?
What do I tell my kids?
How can I protect myself and my finances?
What documents do I need to gather?
Where do I start?
The people who handle divorce best aren't the lucky ones—they're the prepared ones.
While we can’t answer all of these questions for your specific scenario, we can provide you with over 30 years of family law experience to guide you on the path to discovering the right answers for you.
The Divorce First Aid Toolkit is a great first step in your divorce process.
You Don't Have to Decide Yet.
Many people who find this course aren't sure divorce is the right path. They're thinking, weighing the options, and trying to understand what they'd be walking into before they tell anyone what's on their mind.
That's exactly who this course was built for.
Preparation does not mean filing. Education does not mean leaving. Understanding your options is something you can do privately, at your own pace, and before anything becomes public or permanent.
Several of these modules speak directly to the discernment process: helping you think clearly about your marriage, your finances, and your future without pressure in either direction.
If you ultimately decide to stay in your marriage, nothing in this course will have worked against that. If you decide divorce is the right path, you'll be ready instead of starting from zero at the last minute.
The Divorce First Aid Toolkit is a thinking space, not a commitment.
Preparation That Protects You
Before you ever walk into a courtroom or mediation room, there are a few things you should know.
This course is filled with the strategic guidance we give our clients to help them stay centered and informed throughout their divorce process. In 12 self-paced video modules, we’ll cover everything from financial protection to finding the right legal team to exercising self-care throughout divorce.
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Breaking the News
Learn the four moves to make while you still have full access to your home, accounts, and documents.
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Protecting Finances
Discover how to document what you have, build your security fund, and prepare for financial independence.
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Assessing Options
Weigh the differences between mediation, collaborative law, and court, to recognize the right path for you.
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Finding a Legal Team
Determine what to look for, what to ask, and how to make the most of your attorney meetings.
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Planning Logistics
Understand privacy strategies, housing considerations, and how to avoid common mistakes.
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Caring for Yourself
Recognize why your physical and mental health isn’t optional right now; it’s essential.
What You’ll Learn
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Divorce is not just a legal event. It's an extended period of high-stakes decision-making under sustained stress. This module reframes self-care as a strategic resource. It’s the foundation for clear thinking, better communication, and stronger outcomes throughout the process.
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Not everyone who takes this course has decided to divorce. This module is for anyone still weighing that question. Jim walks through the discernment process thoughtfully, helping you think clearly about your marriage, your needs, and your future without pressure in either direction.
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The period before you tell your spouse is one of the most strategically important windows in the entire process. This module covers the four key moves to make while you still have full access to your home, your accounts, and your documents.
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If divorce was your spouse's decision and not yours, this module speaks directly to where you are. Jim addresses the unique challenges of being blindsided, from the emotional disorientation to the compressed timeline, and what to focus on first when you didn't have time to prepare.
MODULE 1: CONDITIONING
MODULE 2: BASE CAMP
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Who you surround yourself with during this process matters more than most people realize. This module covers how to build a support network that helps you stay grounded, make clear decisions, and avoid the isolation that makes difficult transitions harder.
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Hiring an attorney is one of the most consequential decisions you'll make in this process. This module walks through what to look for, what questions to ask, how to evaluate fit, and how to get the most value out of every hour you spend with your legal team.
MODULE 3: SUMMITING
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Most divorces don't go to trial, and for good reason. This module covers mediation, collaborative divorce, and other out-of-court options — how they work, when they're appropriate, and what makes them succeed or fall apart.
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When court is unavoidable or necessary, preparation becomes even more important. This module explains what the litigation process actually looks like, what to expect at each stage, and how to work effectively with your attorney throughout.
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Divorce law is widely misunderstood, and those misunderstandings lead to poor decisions. This module addresses the most common myths Jim encounters after 30 years of practice, including misconceptions about property division, support, custody, and what courts actually care about.
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Even people who hire good attorneys often undermine their own cases through how they engage with their legal team. This module covers the patterns Jim repeatedly sees and how to avoid them so you get more value from your relationship with your lawyer.
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The most costly mistakes in divorce are often internal: decisions made from fear, grief, or anger rather than clarity. This module addresses the psychological patterns that quietly drive up costs and compromise outcomes, plus how to interrupt them.
MODULE 4: VIEW FROM THE TOP
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The final module takes a further view. Jim reflects on what the people who navigate divorce most successfully have in common, and what it looks like to come through this transition with clarity, stability, and a foundation for what comes next.
Better Clients Get Better Results
The more informed and prepared you are, the better legal counsel you’ll hire and the better client you’ll be, which is likely to lead to a strong team and better outcomes.
Taking this course will help you to:
Ask more effective questions
Avoid mistakes that are hard to reverse
Spend less time (and money!) getting up to speed
Make more reasonable decisions not blinded by emotions
Protect your financial future as well as your physical and mental well-being
Most of the cost in a difficult divorce doesn't come from complicated legal issues. The average cost of a divorce in the United States is $15,000 to $20,000, and contested cases can exceed $100,000 per side. Most people assume those numbers are driven by legal complexity. In reality, conflict escalation and emotional reactivity are often the primary drivers. Panic-driven decisions, impulsive communication, and fighting over assets that aren't worth the fight are all patterns that quietly multiply costs. This course is designed to interrupt that pattern before it starts.
This course pays for itself if it helps you:
Save an important document before you lose access
Keep yourself from making an emotional decision you might regret
Ask informed questions that could save you thousands in legal fees
Approach critical moments with confidence instead of panic
Make the best possible use of your legal team and resources
Jim Siemens
DIVORCE COURSE INSTRUCTOR
I am a Board Certified Family Law Specialist in North Carolina. For over 30 years, I have guided hundreds of people through divorces involving complicated finances, business valuations, and contested custody situations.
I know what works in divorce proceedings, and more importantly, I know the preparation work that positions you for better outcomes before the legal process even begins.
But I'm not just a lawyer. I'm a coach who believes that the life challenge of divorce presents an opportunity for personal growth. With the right mindset, you can come through this transition with clarity and a renewed sense of purpose and well-being.
This course gives you the same strategic preparation I provide to my clients for a fraction of the cost.
Dorothy Irwin
DIVORCE COURSE INSTRUCTOR
I have worked alongside Jim for over a decade, helping clients navigate the divorce process from start to finish. I have seen hundreds of cases unfold and know the common pitfalls people experience in divorce, as well as what helps them move through the process more smoothly.
I work directly with clients on the day-to-day realities of divorce. The document gathering, the court preparation, the questions that come up when you're trying to fill out financial forms, and everything in between. I've seen what happens when people prepare thoughtfully and what happens when they don't.
In several of the course modules, I share what I've learned from being in the trenches of this work and the practical insights that come from walking hundreds of people through one of the hardest transitions of their lives.
Everything You Need to Prepare For The Road Ahead
12 VIDEO MODULES
Easy-to-digest guided divorce preparation without the confusing legal jargon.
ACCESS WHEN YOU NEED IT
Most divorces take six to eighteen months to resolve. Your access is structured around that reality, with renewal available if your process extends longer. No rush, no pressure.
RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS
Everything from podcast and book recommendations to downloadable checklists and worksheets to guided meditation and mindfulness practices, all at your fingertips.
SELF-PACED LEARNING
Take back your time and move at your own pace. Start immediately, jump around, and get the answers you need now.
Don’t Go Through Divorce Alone
We’re here to equip you with the tools and skills you need to reach the summit of divorce with clarity and confidence.
Frequently Asked Questions About the Course
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No. This course provides educational guidance on divorce preparation. Laws vary from state to state, and you'll still need to work with a qualified attorney in your area for legal advice specific to your situation. This course provides you with a strong foundation before you start legal consultations, so you get more value from your attorney's time.
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Yes. While we practice in North Carolina, the strategic preparation steps apply everywhere: documenting finances, protecting your privacy, taking care of your health, and planning logistically. You'll still need local legal counsel, but this course ensures you're prepared when you meet with them and have the well-rounded tools to get more out of the divorce process.
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Your purchase and access are completely private on our end. However, we recommend using a personal device, a credit card, and an email address that your spouse doesn't have access to for extra security.
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The 12 modules are designed to be digestible, not overwhelming. Most people work through the full course in a few focused sittings. You can also move through it in whatever order makes sense for where you are right now — if finances are your most pressing concern, start there. If you're still in the discernment phase, start with the module that speaks to that. There's no wrong place to begin.
Your access is valid for one year from the date of purchase. Most divorces take six to eighteen months to resolve, so that window is designed to carry you through the full arc of your process — with room to return to material as your situation evolves.
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Most divorces take six to eighteen months from first decision to final resolution. Your course access is designed around that window — enough time to work through the material thoughtfully and return to it as your situation evolves. If your process extends beyond that, renewal is available. We don't want time pressure to be one more thing you're managing right now.
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Absolutely. This course helps you maximize the value of that relationship by making sure you're gathering the right information and asking the right questions. This course also provides you with additional coaching and resources that might not be covered or provided by your attorney. We discuss topics like self-care, discerning whether the marriage should end, and how to break the news, plus we give you book recommendations, additional downloads, and guided meditations that go beyond what you would get with a traditional legal team.
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One hour with a family law attorney typically runs $300 to $500. That hour usually covers the basics: how the process works, what to expect, where to start. This course covers all of that and more, at your pace, without the clock running.
More importantly, it helps you avoid the kind of emotional decisions that quietly drive up costs throughout the process. Prepared, informed participants generally spend less time in conflict and less money resolving it. The course is designed to put you in that category.
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This might be the best time to go through this material. If you're in the discernment phase, trying to figure out whether divorce is the right choice, several of these modules speak directly to where you are right now. The module on discerning whether your marriage should end walks through that decision-making process thoughtfully. And if you do decide divorce is the right path, you'll already know the preparation steps to take before you share that decision with anyone else. There's no downside to being informed, even if you ultimately choose to stay in your marriage.
