Chronic conflict erodes self-esteem during marriage. Learn how criticism, contempt, and stonewalling affect divorce recovery and self-trust.

Self-care during divorce isn't optional—it's strategic. Learn why physical and emotional well-being improves decisions and outcomes.

Loss aversion keeps people stuck in divorce. Learn how fear of losing affects settlement decisions and strategies to move forward clearly.

Your nervous system affects divorce decisions. Discover how fight, flight, freeze responses work and simple regulation practices that help.

Divorce triggers survival brain responses. Discover mindfulness practices to manage negativity bias and make better decisions during separation.

When you board a plane, a flight attendant will provide some good advice: in the event of an emergency, put your oxygen mask on first, before you try to help anyone else. Divorce can feel like a bit of an emergency, and the flight attendant’s advice might be helpful to remember. Put the oxygen mask on! You can’t care for anyone or anything if you aren’t taking care of yourself.

Why would successful divorce lawyers coach? Believe it or not, most lawyers, like most people, just want to help. For us, divorce coaching is an energizing way to help clients navigate and thrive in a process filled with real life challenges.

It’s totally normal to cling to what you think you know when you are threatened and divorcing. That instinct to dig in and prove a point is a hard-wired survival mechanism. It’s an instinct to be aware of in the divorce process because it can lead you into conflicts that don’t ultimately serve you.

We coach clients to discern for themselves whether they can safely commit to their own self-care while remaining in a marriage or partnership. If it is clear to a client that a marriage or partnership must end, we coach clients to discern for themselves the best way to communicate the end and to take next steps.

We coach clients actively navigating the divorce process. Cultivating resilience and stress management is essential. We encourage clients to silence negative loops of thought that keep them stuck. We support client strategies that allow them to move through the process with equanimity and ease.

We coach clients that have come through the divorce process and are interested in writing a new story for themselves. Sometimes that means blamelessly discerning what went wrong in the past. Sometimes that means rediscovering natural strengths and values that may have been lost in a relationship that has ended.

We coach clients who are co-parenting and step-parenting. Parenting is some of the most challenging and important work we do in life. A coach can help you attune to your children while setting better boundaries. A coach can help you avoid the triggers that come with shared custody arrangements, and step-parenting arrangements.